LOVE: Nourish it or it dies!


Love is likening to a seed that is planted. When planted, it either grows or dies, depending on your decision. The chance of the survival of that seed depends on many factors at the disposition of the planter. The planter’s action depends on whether the seed will germinate or whether it will die.

Look at this illustration:
From the germination of every planted seed, there are three basic elements that must be involved to enhance the germination, growth and production of such seed. These three elements are:
1. Soil
2. Water and
3. Sunlight


Soil is actually the foundation when it comes to planting of seed. Whether the soil is good or bad, the seed must be planted on the soil in other to germinate.


Water allows the seed to absorb nutrients from the soil, it also softens seed coating which in turn helps the germination and growth of the seed.


Without the sun, plants wouldn’t get the necessary nourishment needed to grow, reproduce and survive. The plant actually uses the energy from the sun to convert carbon dioxide, soil nutrients and water into food through a process called photosynthesis.

You see, these three elements are very important to the seed. From the illustration above, love is like a seed which needs some elements to germinate, grow and survive.

The foundation of Love:

The foundation of love matters most, it is what actually instills or stimulates that love goes a very long way in sustaining or killing it. To some, the foundation of their love was physical qualities such as beauty/handsomeness, body structure, height, complexion etc. or nonphysical qualities which could be character/behaviour, smartness, sense of humour etc. Whichever one it may be, it goes a very long way in determining the stability, growth or weakness of that love.

So one must be very careful of what really stimulates that love in you because when that attraction is no more, the love will eventually grow weak and may totally die. So, the foundation of love matters most in every relationship.

Remember, “favor is deceitful and beauty is vain: but a woman/man that feareth the lord, she/he shall be praised” (Proverbs 31:30) and “if the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?” (Psalms 11:3).

Water your love

Just as it applies to the seed, love needs to be watered. This is one aspect that really makes love stronger. When you don’t water your love, it gets dries up and eventually dies. Most couples don’t know this fact, and that is why their love is dry and gradually dying.

There are so many ways to water your love but you still needs to apply the best required by your spouse. Some of which includes:

  • Communication/word of affirmation
  • Act of service
  • Gifts
  • Quality time
  • Physical touch and many more.

Discover your spouse’s love language and use it to water your love and you will be grateful for its positive effects.

Love is life, you feed it, you nourish it, you cherish it, when you don’t do these three things, it gets malnourished, and eventually dies.

~Nancy Okwuchi Nnorom


From our illustration, the plant uses energy from the sun to work or perform processes. What exactly does the sun do? It shines!

Allow your spouse to shine. Most spouses, (especially men) don’t want their wives to shine, they are just too jealous when their wives are becoming popular in the ministry, society or career, that could be why most men would prefer their wives stay indoors as house wives so as not to socialize and probably, she get to be popular. Pst. Mrs Adejumo will always celebrate

her husband in every of her ministrations, why? Because he gave her the privilege to shine and she will never take it for granted. The greatest thing you can do for your wife is to give her the privilege and the support to shine as a light to the church, society and in her career as well. Let her be her best. Don’t be afraid to get her expensive clothes and shoes that will keep her gorgeous and presentable, and I bet you, she will celebrate you all her life time.

On the other hand, most women have become the husbands while their man becomes the wife. They have beat down and terminated every ego of their man just because, probably she is the bread winner of their home, so she has automatically become the decision maker in her home. Sister, allow your man fulfill his God given purpose and become what God has ordained him to be in the family “for the man is the head of the wife…” (Eph. 5:23)

Don’t be carried away by beauty or any other physical quality, let your foundation of love be strong, founded on Christ the solid rock, apply all the necessary and watch your love grow stronger and stronger.

Don’t forget, “love is life, you feed it, you nourish it, you cherish it, when you don’t do these three things, it gets malnourished, and eventually dies.”

Thanks for reading, I pray that as you feed your love with a balanced diet, it will grow and flourish like a seed planted by the rivers of water…


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